I fucking love the way this movie portrayed anxiety and anxiety attacks (though not necessarily the way other characters reacted to them ((namely the child)) but that’s another story)
tell me anxiety isn’t a big deal when Tony fucking Stark thought he’d been poisoned the first time he had an attack
As someone who used to have anxiety attacks all the time as a kid (thankfully less so now), I have a lot of appreciation for a mainstream superhero movie applying this to its main character. Somewhere in there, my 9-year-old self felt incredibly validated when this scene happened.
I think that while the characters reactions to his attacks aren’t great, they are realistic. People don’t know how to properly help someone having one. A kid is going to completely mess up. While the movie did have a chance to show someone handling it right, it does have a narrative to stick to, and is not a proper guide to how to handle all situations. If that were the case, someone would explain proper gun safety to Tony.
I had hours of shit I could’ve discussed about anxiety in this movie. My boyfriend and I typically go out to dinner after seeing a movie and discuss the issues in the movie. Our conversations was a big wibbly wobbly thing with every topic and aspect and comment we wanted to make forcing its way out because we knew that dinner would be too short to discuss even one topic from the movie, much less everything we have to say like we normally manage.
The thing that I find the most compelling to talk about is Pepper’s reaction to the suit when Tony has nightmares and what seems to be to basically be an anxiety attack while asleep. I’ve heard a lot of people shit on Pepper for not being a nurturing, caring partner while Tony was clearly in need. Fuck that shit. She responded like someone who was almost murdered by her partner’s very fucking dangerous machine while she was sleeping in her own bedroom, a safe place. Tony may have been upset but so was Pepper and what was best for her was to get the hell out of there and process. I’m surprised that people want her to stay and take care of Tony while she’s in the middle of her own freak out. That wouldn’t be good for anyone; I can tell you from personal experience.
And I really love how they handle the anxiety stuff from Tony’s perspective and I really, really love that they acknowledge that the stuff they do actually affects them, that they’re not above emotion, that being upset isn’t just for the people they save. And on a meta-level, I really like that one of them was given an invisible illness, which like most invisible illnesses is typically disregarded and considered made up. I don’t care if it takes a comic book/movie character having panic attacks for you to understand anxiety; I’m just glad you got there.
(Source: letsgetdowney, via feybot)